The value of genuine friends


Madeline Cancienne, Staff Reporter

We are not meant to live life alone. So, we create bonds with one another that make life worthwhile.

There are billions of people in this world, and no two people are exactly alike. While this is certain, there are qualities that many people share with one another.

When most people are asked what traits they value in a person, many would say honesty is the most important. I agree with this completely, but honesty does not only mean just saying what is truthful.

Honesty also means that if someone cares about you, they will tell you their opinion no matter how different it may be. They will tell you in a kind manner when you are doing something wrong instead of watching from the sidelines.

If a friend sees that you have not been acting like yourself, they should feel comfortable enough to ask if there is a problem. Although it takes time to develop this type of trust, small acts of kindness and proof that you are a caring friend will help develop this trait.

Honesty is important in any type of relationship whether it be a romantic relationship or a friendship. The ability to be open and honest with one another is crucial for its success. Without honesty, there is a lack of trust, and without trust, there is no room for growth.




Although the most valuable trait in an individual can be argued from person to person, I believe that being authentic is important. You show your good sides and bad sides without fear of judgment.

Being authentic requires confidence and knowledge of self-worth. By knowing your true value, you are automatically comfortable being yourself around new people. Being authentic allows friendships to develop out of a genuine appreciation for one another rather than showing off your best qualities. Although it is beneficial to give others a glimpse into what you have to offer, it is OK to be vulnerable.

No two people are the same, so it is OK to be different from others. If everyone was the same, life would be dull and boring. By being true to yourself, you allow a balance of strengths and weaknesses to develop a strong friendship.

Another quality that I find most important in a person is someone who lives in the moment. In the moment does not mean someone who makes poor decisions because “YOLO,” but rather, someone who puts their cell phone away and spends time in the present.

This can be difficult living in a generation where our phones have become attached to our hands. Many people can barely get through an hourlong class without their phones, let alone spending time with friends.

It is beneficial to use your phone to communicate with friends. However, we forget the importance of putting them away and having a face-to-face conversation with someone.

I have found that some of my greatest friendships have been with those who do not mind going across town to a farmers market or riding around in the car with no destination in mind. It was not the act of riding in the car or listening to music that I enjoyed but the quality time spent with that person.

Spontaneous moments are the ones that stand out the most in my opinion. Deciding to drive to New Orleans for a cup of coffee on a whim has become a tradition for a few of my friends. Of course, we love coffee from locally owned shops, but the tradition holds a great weight in my heart.

I appreciate the laughs, the traditions and the memories much more than the physical destination. Whether you travel five minutes down the street, stay at home, or go all the way to New Orleans, what matters most at the end of the day is that you spend quality time with your friends.

No matter what qualities you find most important, at the end of the day, being around people who make you feel comfortable and happy is what matters the most. College allows people to branch out of their comfort zones and make lifelong friendships.

It is important to have genuine friendships with people because life is better when you are surrounded by a good support system.