I firmly believe that everyone has not only one soulmate, but multiple soulmates. My theory is based on the changes of human nature and on the idea that we are meant for someone. As a Catholic, I do believe that we have free will, so we have an ever-changing destiny. Ever-changing destiny may seem like an oxymoron, but my thoughts on the matter pertain to the fact that as humans, we have free will. Every human on this planet has free will. Their choices may be limited, they may be coerced into doing something or situations may arise where they feel like they do not have a choice. But, there is always free will. Therefore, there are no fated lives but only lives that can change with one’s choices. I believe that if someone has a soulmate, they have the choice to be or not to be in a relationship, of any kind, with them. To define a soulmate is nearly impossible, but there are clear aspects. A soulmate is someone who doesn’t complete you, but rather allows you to reach your full potential. A person by themselves is not broken or in need of being “made whole” as people may describe them. A soulmate is a complement to the one. But the theory of multiple soulmates, for me, is based off the fact that people change. The traits that make me the person I am today are different than the traits I had as a 10-year-old and will be different than the traits I will have when I am a 50-year-old. The point I am trying to make is, that humans change through traumas, natural growth or simple personality changes. Someone who is the soulmate of a person rarely remains their soulmate forever as both people will change eventually. Sometimes a soulmate will need a different push than their soulmate can give, and therefore will need somebody different for them to be their best version. So, you can have a soulmate that would complement you and be able to help you be the best version of yourself. But, if you don’t meet them and something happens, naturally or not, and you change as a result, then they might not remain your soulmate. The way they would have helped you, or you would have helped them, can be nullified. There are people that grow with their soulmates so that they are entirely different from when they started. But, they are still able to help each other, and they still want the best for each other. The way I see it, love is a choice to put the other person before yourself while asking nothing in return. Soulmates just are able to recognize the other for who they are and who they can be. People grow. They change and they need different things at different points in their life. Their soulmates can change too.
A soulmate is, as described by Anne of Green Gables said, a kindred spirit. That is, someone who is in tune with his or her soulmate naturally.
Being someone’s soulmate makes it easier to make the choice to love him or her unconditionally.
Some people have that one person that they are able to grow with, to the point where no one else can replace them. But not everyone can have that opportunity, and thus, other people have more than one soulmate.