It has come to my attention that Valentine’s Day is soon approaching. It’s a day I probably wouldn’t even notice if it weren’t for the groaning laments I hear every day from my peers who will most likely be without a Valentine this year. Since the month of February has begun, people who have previously shown no preoccupation with finding a partner suddenly begin to express dread of being alone on the most romantic day of the year.
I am not sorry about the possibility of my friends being single on Valentine’s Day, but I am sad to hear they think they need to be in a relationship in order to feel adequate. Don’t get me wrong; relationships can be wonderful, but human beings have a tendency to make others feel less-than if they don’t have a partner, effectively pressuring young people to pursue relationships they otherwise wouldn’t have, just so they can feel like they are loved. Of course, this isn’t the case for every single individual; there are many exceptions. However, I’m pretty sure we all know someone who is completely miserable without a boyfriend or girlfriend. To believe that one must be in a relationship in order to feel happy or valuable is a complete and utter myth. Being single is great for soul-searching and introspection, which are fundamental for personal growth. Besides, it’s difficult to have a healthy relationship without first developing a healthy sense of self.
Another thing I notice about Valentine’s Day is that many people complain that they “only” receive gifts and cards from their family and friends. It’s almost shameful to admit to someone that your father is the only one who gave you flowers for Valentine’s Day. To be ashamed of Valentine’s gifts from friends and family is to imply their love is not important to you, or that romantic relationships are more valuable than other relationships.
Valentine’s Day should be a holiday to celebrate the ones you love, no matter who they are. If you’re single this year, don’t spend all day moping around. Buy your mom some flowers, treat your best friend to some chocolate or make a stranger’s day with a sincere compliment. As the great Kurt Vonnegut once said, “A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.”